Since when is Sol a variable star?
It's a pretty typical G Dwarf with moderately high metalicity. It's near the high end of stars that can produce Earth-like planets, though, K Dwarf stars are better, less UV and they live longer.
Most of the "strangeness" of the Earth is the RESULT of life and/or oceans, and the oceans have not evaporated into space because the Ozone Layer, created by life, creates a temperature inversion that keeps water vapor from rising into the statosphere.
Our tilt is nothing special, either, I don't see how a different tilt would impede the development of complex life unless it is extreme (over 60 degrees).
Luna was created by an impact with a proto-planet with 3 times the mass of Mars, but such impacts are very common in young solar systems, all the inner planets were hit by such whoppers. One blasted off much of Mercury's mantle. Another gave Venus it's slow, backward spin. Mars' northern plains may be a gigantic impact basin.