Originally Posted by
Ted '79
I agree -- Lady V comes off as having been "brainwashed by Boomers." (BTW, the other day I wrote a whole screed about a certain subculture of Millies who she reminds me of...but before I could post it, the discussion moved on...oh well.)
I want to take this a step further, though. Because I think this isn't always because of Boomers' deliberate political twisting of the truth. I think often it's because of differences in context...a generation gap, but one that neither generation is fully aware of.
This is hard to put into words, so I hope I do ok...
I've mentioned before that I don't dislike Boomers -- unlike many Xers. I think this is because, since I had Silent parents and was very curious what their lives had been like, I was more aware of the context in which Boomers said what they said -- I was more aware of where Boomers were coming from.
For example, when the intense feminist teacher bit little kids' heads off for mistakenly calling her "Miss" instead of "Ms." -- most of the little Xers were just hurt. But I knew she was coming from a place where people were constantly criticizing her for wanting to be "Ms.," and some of them expressed that by violating her wishes "accidentally-on-purpose." She was wrong in thinking that of little kids, but she thought that because adults really had done that to her. So I wasn't as hurt.
Now here comes a new generation who also heard Boomers' words in a different context than the Boomers were speaking them. But unlike Xers, who were hurt and reacted by ignoring them -- this new generation looked up to and believed them.
Lady V's political attitudes remind me of Adina's ridiculously strict attitude toward alcohol.
And here's how I remember what happened with her: The Xers, older Millennials, and some Silents were all trying to help her out by teaching her that her views didn't have to be so extreme...and then along came a Boomer whose impassioned speech on the evils of alcohol made it extremely clear just where Adina was getting her ideas from.
(I'm sorry, I truly can't remember if that was you. But either way --) My point is not that the Boomer was wrong. My point is that she was right -- in context. I knew where she was coming from, and I wasn't trying, it wasn't a conscious effort; her context was similar to mine. If asked right after reading the speech whether I ageed, I'd have said yes.
But -- then there was Adina. And she made me realize that the place Millennials were listening from was not the same place Boomers were speaking from.
The Boomers who convinced Adina that alcohol needed to be prohibited were coming from a place where "everyone knew" alcohol was no big deal. Where "s/he was drunk" was a mitigating factor in bad behavior, including rape and manslaughter. Where, in 1984, my 1970 brother's older friend calmed his fears about being caught as an underage, unskilled driver with, "Don't worry, if the cops see you make a mistake they'll just think you're drunk" (Millennials: "-- and ignore it," was what everybody didn't just know, but automatically assumed; it never would have occurred to them there would be any other result). Every word the Boomers said was in reaction to, in the context of, the attitude they were used to having to fight.
And that's how I heard it. But Adina heard it in a world where "everyone knows" that "drunk drivers" are the extremely irresponsible scum of the earth. Where of course you get a designated driver -- and where "s/he was drunk" only makes someone's crime worse.
And I'm not saying Boomers are out of touch! You could just as easily say -- and I often do, on issues important to me -- that Millennials are out of touch, that they're ignorant of context, of history. That they don't appreciate the sacrifices older generations have made for them. I often feel that way, and by "older generations" I don't mean Xers (we're mostly sacrificing for the New Artists, I think). I mean Boomers and Silents. They improved things for Millennials in many ways, and Millennials often don't realize the extent of that because they're not aware of recent history. (Remember Adina's, "Who's Chelsea Clinton? Is she related to Hillary?")
There's a generation gap here. And I think that's a major reason why Millennials can develop attitudes like Adina's and Lady V's, and seem "brainwashed by the most extreme of the Boomers."